We are often reminded to count our blessings, but how often do we take time to count our irrational expectations? The past few days I have been trying to figure out what brings me the most angst? Almost every single thing that came to mind always had some underlying expectation.
I could list a thousand different examples, but the root is always the same. I assume and expect others to work-behave-respond the way I would. Or maybe not even how I would – perhaps even better. I have often held past spouses, friends, bosses, etc to a much higher level of expectation than I would typically hold myself.
Is this fair? Absolutely not. Only when I started to release the hold and these ridiculous expectations did I truly begin to feel peace and navigate the political waters a little more smoothly.
Just today I read something that struck a cord about this very issue. It said: Remember when we harbor hate, jealousy, or rage, we connect to others in ways that hurt us all. Let’s release our resentments. Along the way we will experience peace.
Experiencing peace is the goal. Resentment is the result of having a certain expectation about something and it not turning out in your favor. Letting go is key.
When we get angry about something and begin to resent others, it sends out a negative, spiteful energy to others. The more we are aware of what we are doing, the more pain we begin to cause. The closer we are to others, whether it is someone we work with or spend our free time with, the more powerful the resentment can be and it does impact them as well.
Personally, I don’t want to be responsible for someone else’s mood, actions, or even in-action. If I can stop the ripple effect of irrational resentment, then I have made my little circle, my little corner of the world a more peaceful place.
And that’s all we really want in the end….